It’s candidates’ week this week!
Every day I have several candidates meeting with my clients.
I find this a really exciting time.
Curiosity combined with excitement and a little fear…how would the interview
go?
I am cheering for each and every
one of you but in the end, I can make only one person very happy (hopefully)
with a job offer. There are always more people that I have to inform that they
were not ‘the chosen one’.
I always dread writing these
e-mails or making these phone calls. I know you are waiting for my call or my
message and hoping for a positive response. And I so do not want to burst your
bubble but I have to.
People respond in different ways to
a rejection…some never get back in touch, others start debating on the reasons
for not being chosen…thank god I never got anyone who got really angry with me.
They say that rejection is like a
trauma. It takes time to get over it.
However, the way you respond to
this trauma may be crucial for your future. Your response will leave a bigger
mark in my memory than the reasons for not being selected.
Not being the chosen one has most
of the time nothing to do with your experience or skillset. The fact that you made
it to the client interview usually means that you have what it takes to do the
job from a technical point of view.
It could just be that another
candidate had a better fit within the team or that your people management style
was not in line with the company culture.
So leave it to rest for a few days
and then ask me for an honest feedback. You may not like what you hear or I may
not be able to give you a response that answers all of your questions but use
my feedback for what it is intended. It is not to judge you but to mirror the
way you came across.
Does this mean that you have to
change the way you act… not necessarily. Authenticity remains the strongest
selling point. But if your responses or body language are not in line with who
you are, that should be food for thought.
Try to see rejection as a way of
leaving a positive mark in my memory and who knows, there will be other, maybe
even better, opportunities to come.
I look forward to hearing from you,
Isabel
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